Thursday, August 28, 2008

A touchy subject

I’m really having a very hard time understanding why parents of beautiful loving children believe in abortion. I might be able to understand them better if their children had always given them a life of grief and sorrow, but when the children & grandchildren are so loving how can you even think of aborting a beautiful child. Maybe life to these people doesn’t begin until the child is born, actually out of the womb, and in their sights…I can’t really speak for them and I guess I shouldn't either.

Being the proud mother of three, I remember how excited my husband & I were at the possibility that I might be pregnant, how excited we were to find out that I was, and the added excitement of feeling the first light fluttering of our son. Of course in those days, we didn’t get the opportunity to know the sex of the child in advance, but we were sure it was a boy…it was just a feeling I had.

My children were no angels. We had some difficult times during the teenage years, but I never once thought that I should have aborted any of them. Or was I ever sorry that I had given birth to any of them either. I love my children very much.

My very first pregnancy was when I was 16 years old and not married. It was a taboo in those days to be pregnant and not married. I carried my son almost to term, but unfortunately he did not survive and died in my womb a few hours before delivery. It was a very sad time in my life to bury my first born. I was told I had a ‘still birth.’

Later while applying for a life insurance policy, I was asked to produce a copy of my medical records and I was shocked to see the words “spontaneous complete abortion” as referred to my son. I didn’t understand the medical implications of those words at that time and they haunted me for years, thinking that someone actually tagged me with an abortion and a complete one at that. Years later while working for a doctor, a general surgeon, I learned that ‘Complete abortion’ only meant that the baby and the after birth had all come out at the time of delivery and ‘spontaneous’ meant that my body had aborted my now dead son on its own, without the aide or help of anyone.

The abortion issue seems to pop up during election times although it’s really always there. One political side fighting for the rights of the fetus and the other side for a woman’s right to choose. In my book abortion is not a political issue…it’s a moral issue, and one of the Ten Commandants, Thou Shalt Not Kill. Deliberate abortion is murder when used as a form of birth control and a woman’s choice is made at the time she chooses to have sex. Some of you may argue that she has no choice in the case of rape & incest and rightly so, but if a life is created out of those unlawful acts it’s not the innocent baby’s fault.

You’re welcomed to leave your comments, but you’re wasting your time if you think you can change my mind on abortion. I have a very handsome grandson, who will be turning 14 years old next month who the doctors highly recommended that he be aborted just as soon as possible. His mother’s body was creating a multitude of daily blood clots. The doctors told her that she had to abort her child to save her own life, but she refused. Both parents made one of the biggest sacrifices of their lives, and took a leave of absence from work… Mom to lay in bed for the rest of her pregnancy and dad to stay home, care for her every need and for their other child and most importantly to administer injections of blood thinning medications to her several times per day & night. Not all stories end as happily as this one and I know that sometimes medical emergencies do exist and sometimes difficult choices have to be made.

Well, this is all I have to say on this subject and I think I’ve made myself very clear, and you know where I stand on abortion. You may not agree with me, but I certainly hope that you will consider the life you are about to end when considering to have an abortion. Don't do it! Let your child live, grow up and then tell me then if you still feel like you should have aborted this child.


Rachel said...

Amen Sandy!! Well said! When a baby is conceived the baby starts growing right then. How can people think it's not a life??

I'm sorry about your first baby. That would be so hard to go through.

Say Hi to Jimmy! Hope all your cats are doing well too!

Tomas Dennis said...

Very nice post.
Love Ya

Merle said...

Dear Sandy ~~ Great post and I agree
with you entirely. Thanks so much for your comments and I am glad you feel safer riding beside Jimmy. As you say maybe the two headlights make them think it's a car. It was so sad that you lost your first child. And I am glad that doctor explained about the abortion on your history.
Take great care, my friend, Love, Merle.

Alipurr said...

yes, I agree, some people take abortion very lightly and do not think through what it really is

I think being unexpectedly pregnant would be hard on anyone, in any situation, at any age, and I would hope that anyone facing that kind of situation slows down long enough to find some love and support somewhere and consider the life that they have helped create

JunieRose2005 said...


I'm with you 100% with the abortion issue! I have never been able to understand how ppl can't KNOW it's a human life that is involved!

I couldn't be happier or more hopeful with the turn of events ,politically, recently!



I don't belive in Abortion, apart from my three children I also had 3 miscarriages, as I was working, on the doctor's note was the word ABORTION, i was horrified and questioned the wording,my my doctor said that was the correct term, but was very ashamed to hand in my sick note.
So sorry about your first baby, it must have been dreadful for you.
Thank you for dropping into my world.......


Kerri said...

Very well said, Sandy! I agree wholeheartedly. If our country was populated with more people who think like you, abortion wouldn't be thought of as a political issue. And it shouldn't!
You're absolutely's a moral issue.
Thank you for speaking your mind on such an important subject, and not worrying about who you might offend.
It doesn't take a high pay grade to know where human life begins ;)
I'm so sorry you lost your first child. What a dreadful thing to go through.