Monday, February 13, 2017

I wish he hadn't, but he left on Saturday

Anyway, Rick is gone…..all of his things are packed up in my Saturn and I don’t think he will ever consent to coming back.  I would hope that deep in his heart that he really does love me in some way, but that’s just wishful thinking on my part.  I love very deeply and I expect others to love me back with the same passion that I love them…..But sadly, that’s not the way it is.  It is always one way only.  I love them and they don’t love me.  All Rick had to do when he walked in and found me yelling at Jimmy’s picture and crying was to hug me tight and tell me that everything would be alright.  But NO, he couldn’t do that.  He never does that.  He takes it personally as if it is all about him.  I’m still grieving the loss of Jimmy and most of the time I keep it hidden, but then at times it resurfaces and messes up my relationships.  If only Rick’s old girlfriend that he loved so much had died, he would understand what I’m going through, but he doesn’t and never will until someone he loves with all his heart dies leaving him behind.  Maybe someday he will understand me, but as long as he is not here he won't.

I am so sorry for the way I reacted to Rick when he spoke on Saturday, and I owe him an apology.  I think I was having a break-down when he walked sure felt like it.  I did things that I thought I would never do to Rick, and one of them was to ask him to pack up his things and leave.  He didn't deserve that.  He's a very nice guy who I love being with.  He makes me laugh and we have so much fun doing things together.  He's a real true friend, as he likes to be referred to, and I sure do miss him.  

I have been so distressed over this that last night I had chest pains.  There have only been 3 times in my life that I have been stressed enough to have chest pains, and that was in the death of my ex-husband, the death of Jimmy and now with what's happened between Rick & I.    


Dennis 2016 said...

I am sorry that you are stressed out by your emotions. Just go ahead and just write. You were right to yell out at Jimmy as that is a release. I am sorry that Rick just happened to be the one that just happened to come by at the wrong time. Strong men are supposed to withstand and absorb these emotions. But then again folks say," I not putting with this?"
I remember when Jimmy Hatcher died I was pissed at him for leaving when he did not have too.
Take care and remember that we all care. Plus we as a nation and a small community have help close by to deal with stress. I know that our neighbor two houses down goes to a club where people deal with their lost husbands and wives. I think she lost Mike two years ago and I see in the paper at their meetings.

Sandy Hatcher-Wallace said...

Rick came back Monday night and we spent Valentine's Day together after lunch. I'm the happiest that I've ever been in a very long time now.